Save yourself. No one is coming to save you.
This mantra has saved me more than once over the past few years.
Honestly, I’m not sure why — because it’s not entirely true.
Of course, I am saved by God. And I’ve been saved by many people who have locked arms with me and journeyed through life alongside me.
Still, there have been moments — even when surrounded by people I love and who love me — when it has felt like it was all on me to truly move the needle.
Caring for someone can only go so far when the burdens are heavy and the mind is a tangled, woven web.
And in those moments, a silent whisper — “save yourself, no one is coming to save you” — has pushed me to show up for myself in ways I could never have imagined.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot as it relates to this quest to teach bravery and courage — a topic that’s been explored by so many greats.
We all have experiences of isolation — those times when we’ve felt like we were all we had to change the narrative. One brave action, we believe, could change the trajectory of our stuckness.
But we’ve also been frozen in that action. We think and learn, think and learn, and often stop short of applying what we’ve learned in bold, consistent ways.
What does it take to defrost fear?
What does it take to actually use the tools we’ve been given — like the ROOT framework?
When we finally have a blueprint that begins the thaw, what helps us follow it? What moves us beyond our current circumstances?
For me, it’s been shedding the idea of “self in isolation.”
Yes, we can do brave things alone. Don’t get me wrong. But there’s something powerful about the communal aspect of being held. About not being judged. About owning accountability in safe company.
About choosing to expand your territory in front of others.
It’s this community — this safety — that becomes the perfect recipe for drawing out the brave soul within.
Since creating the ROOT framework, I’ve been called to reflect deeply:
On external expectations
On my internal narrative
On my goals
On the comparison trap
On how to raise the perfect mix of self and human-centered beings
On what it really means to love and be loved after 25 years of partnership
On the pressure of being an only daughter
On God’s plan for my life
…and the list goes on. We each have our own list — the things we return to again and again in moments where all we can hear is:
“Save yourself. No one is coming to save you.”
But here’s what I’ve come to know:
The journey to get to the ROOT of your stuckness is a continuous alignment of what you need in this moment that will serve you in the next.
Sometimes, that small, still voice isn’t being honest with you.
In the right community — with others — help does come.
But yes… you will still have to take action on your own behalf.
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